Me- I feel so bad for him.
Mom- Alyssa, Why? He is a bad person.
Me-Who are we to judge, do you know him? Do you know what he has gone through?
Mom-Well No, but....
-Me and My Mother.
Judgment is something that really just bothers me. How we can pass judgment on someone so fast without thinking, yet we don't want to be judged. How we can stereotype or judge someone that we have never even met, that we have never even talked to. But we think we know all about that person just from the way they look. I'm not saying I'm innocent, not at all. What I will say, is that I make a conscious effort to try not to judge. It's hard, it is human nature. We have that mentality to instantly judge someone to make ourselves feel better. That when you see a pretty girl you pick out her flaws. Or when you see someone really talented, you pick out any mistake. We have all done this, and it's such a shame. It's a shame that we judge people at a glance, when if we took time to get to know them, before, you could learn so much.
We all know how it feels to be judged. We have all had that feeling of why? Why can't they just get to know me? We have those feeling and know exactly what it feels like, yet we can turn around in a second and do it to someone else. We turn around and put someone in the situation that we hate being in. The situation that we wish would just stop and we wouldn't have to deal with. We all want that feeling of being liked, but instead a lot of the time it is replaced my judgment and jealousy. Two ugly things that I wish would just disappear But even with how much we all hate those two things we are still guilty of them..
We can be completely closed minded about people. You see someone and quickly pass judgment. You look at their outward appearance, their demeanor, anything you can see without getting to know them. You look at how they are different from you. You criticize, and put down. When if you would take a second and find something good about that person, or see something interesting, it could change your whole outlook about that person You don't even have to talk to them, you can flash a smile at them to make their day better. You don't know what someone else is going through but something easy and simple can make their day better. It can make a huge impact on that person, and make you feel better. You can make yourself feel so much better if you lift someone up instead of tearing someone down. If you go even further and talk to someone new, not only can you learn from them, but they learn from you. You never know when you might say something that could make a huge impact on someone. You could say something that they need to hear. A simple phrase that could make all the difference to them.You can learn so much from people, that you would have otherwise missed out on. You can also teach important lessons. You might not think it's important, but it can be inspiration to someone else.
Another thing that is hard for me with judgment is religion. I have talked to people and told them I am a Mormon. And upon hearing that, they were all the sudden scared that I would think less of them, that I wouldn't want to talk to them. That is something that I am definitely not about. I want to get to know someone for who they are not just what they believe. My parents are always telling me that I need to be careful who my friends are, and who I date. Because your friends influence you, and you fall in love with who you date. I do believe this, but I'm not going to not be friends with someone or not give them a chance based on their religion. I am not that shallow person that will shut you down because our beliefs aren't the same. I like the diversity and learning from people. I will not judge someone because their beliefs are different. It isn't Christ-like and it isn't how Christ would want us to act. He doesn't want us to judge each other. Everyone deserves a chance, and not just one. Everyone messes up and who are we to judge and not give them a chance. People change. I want to see people for who they are not what they are or who they used to be. To me it doesn't matter, we are all human.We are all sons and daughters of God and none of us are better than the other.Why do we put ourselves above others because of our beliefs? We shouldn't but we do. And it's not just Mormons, it's not just in religion. It's in everything. You see people that think they are better because they have money, or they are beautiful, or talented, but it's still not right.
We can miss out on so much just by being shallow and not making and effort. We could make our lives so much more meaningful. We could help others. There is no need for judgment and there is no room for it. We can fill our time with trying to love everyone, and trying to get to know them, trying to learn from them. We all have different experiences and different views. No two people have walked the same path. No two people have even had the same experience the same way. We don't know why people act the way they act, you don't know what someone has been through. But you do know that you wouldn't want to be judged so why judge somebody else! Next time you judge someone or are tempted to try to change a habit and think or say something nice about that person! It can make all the difference!
So Just Love Me and try not to judge!
-Alyssa
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