I don't have a quote today!! Which is probably a good sign, maybe it won't be ridiculously long.
You know that moment when you want to do something so bad, but you are so scared. When you have that second to decide if you are stepping off or chickening out! When you know if you don't do it you'll probably regret it. I just love that! When you are absolutely in control of what happens next! Even if it is just a split second of control, then what happens happens! I like to think everything happens for a reason. The reason might not always be clear, and might not ever be clear. But then again it might, it could be a learning lesson, or something to help someone else, really it could be anything. When you wake up in the morning and you are bombarded with decisions and its not always easy to decide. Every decision has a consequence, not always good not always bad either, most of them you probably don't think about the effect. Even the littlest thing has an effect on the outcome of your day, your week, your month, your year, your life! And to me, that's exciting. Every little thing affects you, and you affect someone else, and on goes the process. It's crazy to think about, it's crazy to realize how much you every decision matters.
Have you ever thought about what if your parents hadn't met. What if they didn't sit next to each other in church or accidentally bumped into each other in the grocery store, or whatever. But they did and now your here and your decisions are affecting others.What happens happens, and it does for a reason. Why regret things you have done, because it can lead to great things. I know I have had that moment when I say Yeah I'm going to do it and go for it. Then maybe five minutes later I think what did I just do! And I feel like a complete idiot. Or I might say Wow that was fun! Either way a lesson comes out of it! And the decision was all mine! And that will affect pretty much everything! Well my decision tonight is to keep it short! Your welcome Kory and Randall( But to be honest, I just want to go to sleep, it has nothing to do with them).
So Just Love Me, and make all of your decisions count!
-Alyssa
Monday, April 25, 2011
Monday, March 28, 2011
It can make all the difference
Me- I feel so bad for him.
Mom- Alyssa, Why? He is a bad person.
Me-Who are we to judge, do you know him? Do you know what he has gone through?
Mom-Well No, but....
-Me and My Mother.
Judgment is something that really just bothers me. How we can pass judgment on someone so fast without thinking, yet we don't want to be judged. How we can stereotype or judge someone that we have never even met, that we have never even talked to. But we think we know all about that person just from the way they look. I'm not saying I'm innocent, not at all. What I will say, is that I make a conscious effort to try not to judge. It's hard, it is human nature. We have that mentality to instantly judge someone to make ourselves feel better. That when you see a pretty girl you pick out her flaws. Or when you see someone really talented, you pick out any mistake. We have all done this, and it's such a shame. It's a shame that we judge people at a glance, when if we took time to get to know them, before, you could learn so much.
We all know how it feels to be judged. We have all had that feeling of why? Why can't they just get to know me? We have those feeling and know exactly what it feels like, yet we can turn around in a second and do it to someone else. We turn around and put someone in the situation that we hate being in. The situation that we wish would just stop and we wouldn't have to deal with. We all want that feeling of being liked, but instead a lot of the time it is replaced my judgment and jealousy. Two ugly things that I wish would just disappear But even with how much we all hate those two things we are still guilty of them..
We can be completely closed minded about people. You see someone and quickly pass judgment. You look at their outward appearance, their demeanor, anything you can see without getting to know them. You look at how they are different from you. You criticize, and put down. When if you would take a second and find something good about that person, or see something interesting, it could change your whole outlook about that person You don't even have to talk to them, you can flash a smile at them to make their day better. You don't know what someone else is going through but something easy and simple can make their day better. It can make a huge impact on that person, and make you feel better. You can make yourself feel so much better if you lift someone up instead of tearing someone down. If you go even further and talk to someone new, not only can you learn from them, but they learn from you. You never know when you might say something that could make a huge impact on someone. You could say something that they need to hear. A simple phrase that could make all the difference to them.You can learn so much from people, that you would have otherwise missed out on. You can also teach important lessons. You might not think it's important, but it can be inspiration to someone else.
Another thing that is hard for me with judgment is religion. I have talked to people and told them I am a Mormon. And upon hearing that, they were all the sudden scared that I would think less of them, that I wouldn't want to talk to them. That is something that I am definitely not about. I want to get to know someone for who they are not just what they believe. My parents are always telling me that I need to be careful who my friends are, and who I date. Because your friends influence you, and you fall in love with who you date. I do believe this, but I'm not going to not be friends with someone or not give them a chance based on their religion. I am not that shallow person that will shut you down because our beliefs aren't the same. I like the diversity and learning from people. I will not judge someone because their beliefs are different. It isn't Christ-like and it isn't how Christ would want us to act. He doesn't want us to judge each other. Everyone deserves a chance, and not just one. Everyone messes up and who are we to judge and not give them a chance. People change. I want to see people for who they are not what they are or who they used to be. To me it doesn't matter, we are all human.We are all sons and daughters of God and none of us are better than the other.Why do we put ourselves above others because of our beliefs? We shouldn't but we do. And it's not just Mormons, it's not just in religion. It's in everything. You see people that think they are better because they have money, or they are beautiful, or talented, but it's still not right.
We can miss out on so much just by being shallow and not making and effort. We could make our lives so much more meaningful. We could help others. There is no need for judgment and there is no room for it. We can fill our time with trying to love everyone, and trying to get to know them, trying to learn from them. We all have different experiences and different views. No two people have walked the same path. No two people have even had the same experience the same way. We don't know why people act the way they act, you don't know what someone has been through. But you do know that you wouldn't want to be judged so why judge somebody else! Next time you judge someone or are tempted to try to change a habit and think or say something nice about that person! It can make all the difference!
So Just Love Me and try not to judge!
-Alyssa
Mom- Alyssa, Why? He is a bad person.
Me-Who are we to judge, do you know him? Do you know what he has gone through?
Mom-Well No, but....
-Me and My Mother.
Judgment is something that really just bothers me. How we can pass judgment on someone so fast without thinking, yet we don't want to be judged. How we can stereotype or judge someone that we have never even met, that we have never even talked to. But we think we know all about that person just from the way they look. I'm not saying I'm innocent, not at all. What I will say, is that I make a conscious effort to try not to judge. It's hard, it is human nature. We have that mentality to instantly judge someone to make ourselves feel better. That when you see a pretty girl you pick out her flaws. Or when you see someone really talented, you pick out any mistake. We have all done this, and it's such a shame. It's a shame that we judge people at a glance, when if we took time to get to know them, before, you could learn so much.
We all know how it feels to be judged. We have all had that feeling of why? Why can't they just get to know me? We have those feeling and know exactly what it feels like, yet we can turn around in a second and do it to someone else. We turn around and put someone in the situation that we hate being in. The situation that we wish would just stop and we wouldn't have to deal with. We all want that feeling of being liked, but instead a lot of the time it is replaced my judgment and jealousy. Two ugly things that I wish would just disappear But even with how much we all hate those two things we are still guilty of them..
We can be completely closed minded about people. You see someone and quickly pass judgment. You look at their outward appearance, their demeanor, anything you can see without getting to know them. You look at how they are different from you. You criticize, and put down. When if you would take a second and find something good about that person, or see something interesting, it could change your whole outlook about that person You don't even have to talk to them, you can flash a smile at them to make their day better. You don't know what someone else is going through but something easy and simple can make their day better. It can make a huge impact on that person, and make you feel better. You can make yourself feel so much better if you lift someone up instead of tearing someone down. If you go even further and talk to someone new, not only can you learn from them, but they learn from you. You never know when you might say something that could make a huge impact on someone. You could say something that they need to hear. A simple phrase that could make all the difference to them.You can learn so much from people, that you would have otherwise missed out on. You can also teach important lessons. You might not think it's important, but it can be inspiration to someone else.
Another thing that is hard for me with judgment is religion. I have talked to people and told them I am a Mormon. And upon hearing that, they were all the sudden scared that I would think less of them, that I wouldn't want to talk to them. That is something that I am definitely not about. I want to get to know someone for who they are not just what they believe. My parents are always telling me that I need to be careful who my friends are, and who I date. Because your friends influence you, and you fall in love with who you date. I do believe this, but I'm not going to not be friends with someone or not give them a chance based on their religion. I am not that shallow person that will shut you down because our beliefs aren't the same. I like the diversity and learning from people. I will not judge someone because their beliefs are different. It isn't Christ-like and it isn't how Christ would want us to act. He doesn't want us to judge each other. Everyone deserves a chance, and not just one. Everyone messes up and who are we to judge and not give them a chance. People change. I want to see people for who they are not what they are or who they used to be. To me it doesn't matter, we are all human.We are all sons and daughters of God and none of us are better than the other.Why do we put ourselves above others because of our beliefs? We shouldn't but we do. And it's not just Mormons, it's not just in religion. It's in everything. You see people that think they are better because they have money, or they are beautiful, or talented, but it's still not right.
We can miss out on so much just by being shallow and not making and effort. We could make our lives so much more meaningful. We could help others. There is no need for judgment and there is no room for it. We can fill our time with trying to love everyone, and trying to get to know them, trying to learn from them. We all have different experiences and different views. No two people have walked the same path. No two people have even had the same experience the same way. We don't know why people act the way they act, you don't know what someone has been through. But you do know that you wouldn't want to be judged so why judge somebody else! Next time you judge someone or are tempted to try to change a habit and think or say something nice about that person! It can make all the difference!
So Just Love Me and try not to judge!
-Alyssa
Monday, March 14, 2011
Say what you mean and mean what you say!! Truely follow your dreams!
"We have to stay away from Alyssa because, well she doesn't like you."
-Shad
Sometimes I admire my six year old brothers honesty. He really isn't afraid to say what he means, even if it might not be completely acceptable. A lot of the time as we get older we stop saying what we feel, and try to put things in a way other people won't judge. We stop saying that we want to the president, or princesses, cowboys, or mermaids. We stop because we are scared to hear we can't do it, that we need to be something more realistic. But honestly I wish I still had that little kid mentally! I wish I always said what I meant and meant what I said. I wish I had never backed down from what I really wanted.
When we don't mean what we say and don't say what we mean, it just makes life so much more confusing. When we say we want something that we really don't. I have said stuff, and thought to myself I did not mean that, why did I say that, that is not something I want. Life could be so simple if we could just be honest. But I guess there are those times that you really don't even know what you mean. When you forget what you really want. This is because of the craziness and chaotic nature of our lives and the people in them. When we forget what is really important. We focus on the useless aspects of life and fill or heads with mindless chatter. It happens to everyone. It seems like the more I learn the more confused I get. I am always being bombarded with facts I'm never going to have to use or would ever want to use. But it still takes up space, and once you hear something you do have it forever.
I remember just wanting to grow up when I was little, but now I feel like I need more time as a kid. Funny how that happens. When you want something, it doesn't come fast enough. When you are dreading something, it comes before you know it. Now all I really want is that simplicity back. When you could focus on one thing, and one thing only. Now, it's a constant parade of thoughts when you are trying to concentrate. The constant chatter of worries and questions. Questions that you wish could be a simple yes or no question. Now it's not that easy. It's not cheerios or frosted flakes, it's things that are really going to affect you and your future. It's not as easy when it's going to affect the rest of your life. I remember thinking as a little girl that I knew all the answers. When I just knew that I was Barbie and My Ken would come and say Hey babe wanna go for a ride. And I would jump into his convertible, we'd get married and live happily ever after in Barbie and Kens dream house. Now the reality is hitting me. Things are that easy. I have to really work for what I want to accomplish.
As much as I wish that my Ken will come before any of the worldly worries hit me, it's not going to happen. I have to make all the choices about my future. And my choices will have consequences good or bad. Things aren't going to be as easy as I had always thought.It's not as simple as Yes or No, This or That. You have all the questions that come to your mind to answer, all the what if's. I have come to realize all this with just trying to choose a college. There is the influence of other people's opinions, and of the the what if I don't like it. What if I change my mind. What if, What if, What if. there are endless what if's. And it seems like endless confusion. Do I do what I want, and makes me happy, or do I listen to what my parents want, and let them decide my future. Every decision leaves something to chance, and we won't know the outcome until it happens.
I say take a little risk. Do what you want! Jump as high as you can and reach for Neptune! If you fall and miss your landing, get right back up and try again. Follow your dreams! I know I will! I'm going to be just as successful as Barbie. I'll find my Ken and live happily ever after in our dream house. I might have been a little kid saying that, But as I have learned back then I said what I meant, and meant what I said! I meant That! i might at time fall, and have that confusion and not know what to choose. I will make mistakes, but they will make me better and I will learn from them. It will seem hard and confusing and anything but simple. But I can do it. i can try my best to bring that little kid mentality back and stick to my decisions. Mean exactly what I say and don't second guess myself. I won't have that simplicity of knowing ALL the answers. But I will do my best to try. But I have faith in myself that I will follow the best path for me! That I will find the little kid in me and be Barbie.
So Just Love Me, and remember say what you mean and follow your dreams.
Alyssa
-Shad
Sometimes I admire my six year old brothers honesty. He really isn't afraid to say what he means, even if it might not be completely acceptable. A lot of the time as we get older we stop saying what we feel, and try to put things in a way other people won't judge. We stop saying that we want to the president, or princesses, cowboys, or mermaids. We stop because we are scared to hear we can't do it, that we need to be something more realistic. But honestly I wish I still had that little kid mentally! I wish I always said what I meant and meant what I said. I wish I had never backed down from what I really wanted.
When we don't mean what we say and don't say what we mean, it just makes life so much more confusing. When we say we want something that we really don't. I have said stuff, and thought to myself I did not mean that, why did I say that, that is not something I want. Life could be so simple if we could just be honest. But I guess there are those times that you really don't even know what you mean. When you forget what you really want. This is because of the craziness and chaotic nature of our lives and the people in them. When we forget what is really important. We focus on the useless aspects of life and fill or heads with mindless chatter. It happens to everyone. It seems like the more I learn the more confused I get. I am always being bombarded with facts I'm never going to have to use or would ever want to use. But it still takes up space, and once you hear something you do have it forever.
I remember just wanting to grow up when I was little, but now I feel like I need more time as a kid. Funny how that happens. When you want something, it doesn't come fast enough. When you are dreading something, it comes before you know it. Now all I really want is that simplicity back. When you could focus on one thing, and one thing only. Now, it's a constant parade of thoughts when you are trying to concentrate. The constant chatter of worries and questions. Questions that you wish could be a simple yes or no question. Now it's not that easy. It's not cheerios or frosted flakes, it's things that are really going to affect you and your future. It's not as easy when it's going to affect the rest of your life. I remember thinking as a little girl that I knew all the answers. When I just knew that I was Barbie and My Ken would come and say Hey babe wanna go for a ride. And I would jump into his convertible, we'd get married and live happily ever after in Barbie and Kens dream house. Now the reality is hitting me. Things are that easy. I have to really work for what I want to accomplish.
As much as I wish that my Ken will come before any of the worldly worries hit me, it's not going to happen. I have to make all the choices about my future. And my choices will have consequences good or bad. Things aren't going to be as easy as I had always thought.It's not as simple as Yes or No, This or That. You have all the questions that come to your mind to answer, all the what if's. I have come to realize all this with just trying to choose a college. There is the influence of other people's opinions, and of the the what if I don't like it. What if I change my mind. What if, What if, What if. there are endless what if's. And it seems like endless confusion. Do I do what I want, and makes me happy, or do I listen to what my parents want, and let them decide my future. Every decision leaves something to chance, and we won't know the outcome until it happens.
I say take a little risk. Do what you want! Jump as high as you can and reach for Neptune! If you fall and miss your landing, get right back up and try again. Follow your dreams! I know I will! I'm going to be just as successful as Barbie. I'll find my Ken and live happily ever after in our dream house. I might have been a little kid saying that, But as I have learned back then I said what I meant, and meant what I said! I meant That! i might at time fall, and have that confusion and not know what to choose. I will make mistakes, but they will make me better and I will learn from them. It will seem hard and confusing and anything but simple. But I can do it. i can try my best to bring that little kid mentality back and stick to my decisions. Mean exactly what I say and don't second guess myself. I won't have that simplicity of knowing ALL the answers. But I will do my best to try. But I have faith in myself that I will follow the best path for me! That I will find the little kid in me and be Barbie.
So Just Love Me, and remember say what you mean and follow your dreams.
Alyssa
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can also hurt me.
"Shad, Oh my gosh sit down. You look so stupid! You look like a dog. People do not stick their head out the window and stick their tongue out. Shad, I'm serious! Stop, I mean it! Stop it right now! Mom, roll his window up! Shad, why would you even do that, you don't even realize how dumb you just looked. You're so annoying. I don't know how mom even puts up with you. I don't even like you!"
-Alyssa (Me) (as awful to admit as it is.)
Why on earth do we say mean hurtful things to people? Do we say it out of anger? Do we try to hurt them? Does it make us feel better? In the moment I think it is all of those things. When we are thinking completely irrational. Maybe we are having a bad day, and don't want to be alone in misery. But how completely horrid and selfish is that. I know that I have hurt a lot of people's feelings by being irrational and not caring. The worst part is that I say these things to the people I love the most. In all honesty, we shouldn't say these to anyone, we should love everyone and not want to cause them pain.
You know that saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." I remember when the worst pain I knew was falling and skinning my knee. Oh don't I wish that was still the most pain I have felt. I must admit that the emotional pain from unkind words is much worse. We can say that words don't affect us, but they do. They hurt worse than anything. A skinned knee heels in a few weeks, but when do hurt feelings? Do they ever? When do we get over being repeatedly called mean names?
I know that it's hard trying to get over words. As much as you try to ignore them, they come back to haunt you at the worst times. The times when you can barely handle it. When you are down on yourself, when you feel worthless, when everything is going wrong.When you are hurting and alone. I don't normally talk about my pain. But I have cried more over emotional pain than physical pain. I have been asked why I have been sad, and told that my life is so great. People don't always understand how much words can hurt. How being gossiped about builds up. It makes you feel so alone. You can try to ignore it and fake a smile, but how long can you fake it. How it seems you are getting judged for every little thing you do. When you don't know who you can talk to, because the next day they are talking about you.
I can honestly say that it is hard. It is hard trying to be nice to people that have made you feel horrible. When I was repeatedly being called things, it did get to me. I did start believing it. I started to shut down and put walls up. I tried to make sure nobody ever got close enough to really hurt me. But it's not like only people close to me could hurt me. It did hurt hearing people talk about me that I did not even know. People that I had never even talked to. I wondered why people that I didn't even know talked about me. Maybe it was because everyone was doing it. it wasn't popular to stand up and not talk about me. I was hurting and I was not happy. I wanted to run away from it, but you can't run away from your emotions. You can't escape how you feel about yourself. I didn't even like myself, I was believing what people were saying.
One day I realized that I would never be happy like that. To get over it I had to forgive everyone that had ever said anything. I learned not to hate, but to love everyone. I learned to smile when I got dirty looks. I learned to not judge them, but to accept them. I learned to be nice to people that weren't nice to me. I learned to say something nice when I was tempted to say something mean. Eventually things changed I was actually nice and not unhappy. Slowly but surely I was treated different. I know that a lot of people still don't like me, but I have learned to like myself. I now know how to take unkind words. They still hurt and I'm still working on it. I'm still working on being myself and breaking down my walls. I'm still trying to not say unkind thing. But it is really hard. It is something we all need to work on, we have all been spoken to unkindly.
Everyone knows what I'm talking about. Everyone has been called a mean name or has had unkind words spoken to them. It's not fun, and it does hurt. You feel alone, and angry at that person for making you feel that way. But do you ever think about how that person feels, they have been hurt by words too. It's an endless vicious cycle. Well why can't we end it? Why can't we take a second and breathe? Why can't we think about how they are feeling? Why can't we remember how we feel in that situation? Why can't we let them be happy? Why can't we? Well we can, and we should!
Instead of speaking out in anger, take a second and breathe. Instead of getting jealous and wanting them to feel bad, let them be happy and even compliment them. We can turn this around. "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you;" -Matthew 5:44. We can do it! It does take a conscious effort, but it's worth it. It does make you feel better! Where has hate ever gotten you? It sure doesn't make you feel good. But being kind does. Live by the golden rule! "Do unto others as you would have done unto you.". Put yourself in another persons shoes. If you wouldn't like it don't say it, don't do it. Be kind to everyone. Try sticking up for someone that you normally wouldn't. Stop gossip before it starts. Words do hurt, and why do we need more pain in this world? We don't need to purposely inflict pain on anyone.
My point is simple words or careless things we say can have a huge impact on our lives. They can make or break someone. They can cause problems or help solve them. Words are so amazing but we need to be kind about what we say. We need to be careful not to speak out in anger. We need to try to uplift everyone and not bring them down. When you try to bring someone else down, you are bringing yourself down with them. My challenge is try and be nice! When you are angry or annoyed just take a second and breathe. Do you really mean it? Try to replace it with something nice. Think of something you like about that person. It helps, and makes you feel much better.
"Sticks and stones may breaks my bone, but words can also hurt me."
So Just Love Me, and everyone else!
-Alyssa
-Alyssa (Me) (as awful to admit as it is.)
Why on earth do we say mean hurtful things to people? Do we say it out of anger? Do we try to hurt them? Does it make us feel better? In the moment I think it is all of those things. When we are thinking completely irrational. Maybe we are having a bad day, and don't want to be alone in misery. But how completely horrid and selfish is that. I know that I have hurt a lot of people's feelings by being irrational and not caring. The worst part is that I say these things to the people I love the most. In all honesty, we shouldn't say these to anyone, we should love everyone and not want to cause them pain.
You know that saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." I remember when the worst pain I knew was falling and skinning my knee. Oh don't I wish that was still the most pain I have felt. I must admit that the emotional pain from unkind words is much worse. We can say that words don't affect us, but they do. They hurt worse than anything. A skinned knee heels in a few weeks, but when do hurt feelings? Do they ever? When do we get over being repeatedly called mean names?
I know that it's hard trying to get over words. As much as you try to ignore them, they come back to haunt you at the worst times. The times when you can barely handle it. When you are down on yourself, when you feel worthless, when everything is going wrong.When you are hurting and alone. I don't normally talk about my pain. But I have cried more over emotional pain than physical pain. I have been asked why I have been sad, and told that my life is so great. People don't always understand how much words can hurt. How being gossiped about builds up. It makes you feel so alone. You can try to ignore it and fake a smile, but how long can you fake it. How it seems you are getting judged for every little thing you do. When you don't know who you can talk to, because the next day they are talking about you.
I can honestly say that it is hard. It is hard trying to be nice to people that have made you feel horrible. When I was repeatedly being called things, it did get to me. I did start believing it. I started to shut down and put walls up. I tried to make sure nobody ever got close enough to really hurt me. But it's not like only people close to me could hurt me. It did hurt hearing people talk about me that I did not even know. People that I had never even talked to. I wondered why people that I didn't even know talked about me. Maybe it was because everyone was doing it. it wasn't popular to stand up and not talk about me. I was hurting and I was not happy. I wanted to run away from it, but you can't run away from your emotions. You can't escape how you feel about yourself. I didn't even like myself, I was believing what people were saying.
One day I realized that I would never be happy like that. To get over it I had to forgive everyone that had ever said anything. I learned not to hate, but to love everyone. I learned to smile when I got dirty looks. I learned to not judge them, but to accept them. I learned to be nice to people that weren't nice to me. I learned to say something nice when I was tempted to say something mean. Eventually things changed I was actually nice and not unhappy. Slowly but surely I was treated different. I know that a lot of people still don't like me, but I have learned to like myself. I now know how to take unkind words. They still hurt and I'm still working on it. I'm still working on being myself and breaking down my walls. I'm still trying to not say unkind thing. But it is really hard. It is something we all need to work on, we have all been spoken to unkindly.
Everyone knows what I'm talking about. Everyone has been called a mean name or has had unkind words spoken to them. It's not fun, and it does hurt. You feel alone, and angry at that person for making you feel that way. But do you ever think about how that person feels, they have been hurt by words too. It's an endless vicious cycle. Well why can't we end it? Why can't we take a second and breathe? Why can't we think about how they are feeling? Why can't we remember how we feel in that situation? Why can't we let them be happy? Why can't we? Well we can, and we should!
Instead of speaking out in anger, take a second and breathe. Instead of getting jealous and wanting them to feel bad, let them be happy and even compliment them. We can turn this around. "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which spitefully use you, and persecute you;" -Matthew 5:44. We can do it! It does take a conscious effort, but it's worth it. It does make you feel better! Where has hate ever gotten you? It sure doesn't make you feel good. But being kind does. Live by the golden rule! "Do unto others as you would have done unto you.". Put yourself in another persons shoes. If you wouldn't like it don't say it, don't do it. Be kind to everyone. Try sticking up for someone that you normally wouldn't. Stop gossip before it starts. Words do hurt, and why do we need more pain in this world? We don't need to purposely inflict pain on anyone.
My point is simple words or careless things we say can have a huge impact on our lives. They can make or break someone. They can cause problems or help solve them. Words are so amazing but we need to be kind about what we say. We need to be careful not to speak out in anger. We need to try to uplift everyone and not bring them down. When you try to bring someone else down, you are bringing yourself down with them. My challenge is try and be nice! When you are angry or annoyed just take a second and breathe. Do you really mean it? Try to replace it with something nice. Think of something you like about that person. It helps, and makes you feel much better.
"Sticks and stones may breaks my bone, but words can also hurt me."
So Just Love Me, and everyone else!
-Alyssa
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Take a step back and laugh!
"I swear I'm going senile. I mean when you are sitting next to the toilet at 2 A.M. coughing so much your throwing up, crying over a guy that doesn't even like you, talking to yourself, and oh to make it even better cleaning the toilet and floor. Yeah, I think that classifies as going crazy."
-Alyssa (Me)
When you are in a situation it seems so much worse than it actually is, well usually. It just seems awful and you are freaking out and don't know what to do. Then you look back on it the next day, and it's so stupid and you can't believe you were so upset over the situation.When you think about it now, you just can't help but laugh about how dumb it was. I have those moments all the time. I think that I'm going to die and it's the end of the world, but when I look back I just think it's hilarious. For most people it takes a lot longer to laugh it off, but me, sometimes I laugh about it right after it happens. As soon as I can think straight, it's pretty comical! But, before you know it, it's something else. Well atleast for me it's that way.
For these kind of things I say it's better to just laugh at yourself and make the experience funny. And, why not tell other people to make them laugh. Why not share those times where you just felt so stupid!
I decided that I'm going to share some of my stupid stories or the stupid stories I have heard!
Well I just asked my little brother Jedde if he has heard any stupid stories, and he looked at me and said "your whole life".
One day Shem walked in the kitchen and told us about his night. A rundown of the story was that he woke up in the middle of the night and was really thirty. We was trying to figure out where a cup was in his room and when he couldn't find one decided that his wrestling shoe would be a great cup. So he walked into the bathroom and was going to fill it up. Right then he realized how bad of an idea that was. I can barely stand the smell of his shoes, let alone think about drinking out of them.
At state wrestling I was sharing a bed with Shelby. All through the night she kept touching my face and I was getting so annoyed. Finally after about the 15th time I pushed her hand off my face. She turns to me and says "geez I'm just touching you". I was so annoyed with her. When she woke up the next morning and I told her and we couldn't stop laughing. Se didn't remember any of it. She told me about how in the middle of the night she was getting up to go to the bathroom and when she got up she couldn't remember what she was doing and went back to bed. About 10 minutes later the same thing happened, finally she remembered what she was going to do.
Well of course my feeling crazy sitting next to the toilet story that happened this week. I think you gist of that one.
As all of the wrestlerettes know, I have this thing about going to the bathroom. So on many occasions I have almost pee'd my pants. On our way to state, we stopped in flagstaff and I had to pee so bad! We were trying to get to the mall and I couldn't hold it anymore. Of course everyone was making water noises and trying to make me laugh. It was horrible, I had to pee so bad I wanted to cry.. When we finally got to the mall, I was running in with my belt and pants undone to go to the bathroom. And, of course there was a wrestling team there, so you can imagine how dumb I looked.
The other night my mom was in the kitchen in her underwear and didn't realize Shem had a friend over. Then, in walks Shem and Duncan. So not knowing what to do, she hides under the table until they left.
There are the countless number of times when my brothers would make fun of me and I wouldn't get it so i would get so embarrassed and cry.
To this day they have a few favorites.
They were all telling jokes at dinner, and of course they were blonde jokes but the blonde was named Alyssa. Then Kalob says I walked into the kitchen one night and Alyssa was sitting at the table and I said it's chilly outside and Alyssa ran out with a bowl and a spoon. My whole family was laughing but I didn't get it so i asked "And then what happened?".
One day I was at the pool with my brother and he asked me if I was hungry and if I was to get something out of the freezer. So I went and got something out of the freezer and I was intently reading the instructions and I looked at him and asked "Is it frozen or thawed?" He started laughing and I told him a was serious. He kept laughing and laughing and looks at me and says ohh you are serious. He asked me where I got it and I said the freezer and I was just like Kalob please just tell me if it's frozen or thawed i really don't know. He finally told me that is was frozen not thawed.
Kalob-Luke, why don't you get an enema?
Me-Whats an emeno?
Hahahahahah
Seth-Alyssa I'm sure you would like a peppermint one.
Me-What is it?
Hahaha
Luke-Why don't you look it up.
Me- Ohkay I did, But all it said was poop like a pro.
They all laughed and still make fun of me.
My freshman year I had this challenge to get 20 wrestlers number at a tournament. So I would ask guys and I'd get there number. It was really easy, until I asked this one guy and he said no. I figured it was because our teams just wrestled. I was still freaking out about it and stressing. The next day I was still upset about it. For some reason I happened to be sitting next to the Queen Creek team ( The guy that rejected me was on this team). I decided to ask them if they knew my cousin Daniel. They did, but then they said wait wait if you're related to Daniel then your related to Trace. I was like Trace who I don't know anybody named Trace. They asked me If I was a Bowman, and I said yes. They all started laughing and said Oh my gosh you hit on your cousin. It turned out Trace is Trace Bowman and Trace Bowman is who I happened to have hit on. Small world Huh. I was horrified, and my parents thought it was funny especially because they were sitting with his parents in the stands. I had no idea that he was my cousin, but that didn't stop my parents from telling this story. This one took me awhile to get over.
There are always those moments where you are alone talking to yourself and someone walks in the room!
Or the infamous getting caught singing and dancing in your underwear.
I asked Shem what would he feel stupid about if someone saw him. These were his responses:
-Smelling my armpits.
-Trying to pretend I didn't fart
-Getting rejected by a girl.
-Practicing pick up lines in the mirror.
-Staring at a hott girl.
-Better yet, staring at a hott girl's butt.
Then he started laughing and said if I ever did any of those things.
There are so many more stories, and everyone has there own. I'm sure that you can think of those time where you realized how dumb you looked. Or, when you think back to a situation and you just feel stupid for doing that. But, I'd have to say these moments are part of life. I like them, they really are fun to look back and laugh at!
All in All we all have things that we feel really dumb about or think it's the end of the world, because of embarrassment. Believe me it's not I've done tons of stupid thing and I'm just fine, well sort of! So step back from your stupid moments and just laugh and tell someone else so they can laugh! I think one of the best lessons in life is to learn to laugh at yourself. If you can make better of an embarrassing situation then you can make better of anything.
So Just Love Me, and Laugh at yourself, I do!
-Alyssa
-Alyssa (Me)
When you are in a situation it seems so much worse than it actually is, well usually. It just seems awful and you are freaking out and don't know what to do. Then you look back on it the next day, and it's so stupid and you can't believe you were so upset over the situation.When you think about it now, you just can't help but laugh about how dumb it was. I have those moments all the time. I think that I'm going to die and it's the end of the world, but when I look back I just think it's hilarious. For most people it takes a lot longer to laugh it off, but me, sometimes I laugh about it right after it happens. As soon as I can think straight, it's pretty comical! But, before you know it, it's something else. Well atleast for me it's that way.
For these kind of things I say it's better to just laugh at yourself and make the experience funny. And, why not tell other people to make them laugh. Why not share those times where you just felt so stupid!
I decided that I'm going to share some of my stupid stories or the stupid stories I have heard!
Well I just asked my little brother Jedde if he has heard any stupid stories, and he looked at me and said "your whole life".
One day Shem walked in the kitchen and told us about his night. A rundown of the story was that he woke up in the middle of the night and was really thirty. We was trying to figure out where a cup was in his room and when he couldn't find one decided that his wrestling shoe would be a great cup. So he walked into the bathroom and was going to fill it up. Right then he realized how bad of an idea that was. I can barely stand the smell of his shoes, let alone think about drinking out of them.
At state wrestling I was sharing a bed with Shelby. All through the night she kept touching my face and I was getting so annoyed. Finally after about the 15th time I pushed her hand off my face. She turns to me and says "geez I'm just touching you". I was so annoyed with her. When she woke up the next morning and I told her and we couldn't stop laughing. Se didn't remember any of it. She told me about how in the middle of the night she was getting up to go to the bathroom and when she got up she couldn't remember what she was doing and went back to bed. About 10 minutes later the same thing happened, finally she remembered what she was going to do.
Well of course my feeling crazy sitting next to the toilet story that happened this week. I think you gist of that one.
As all of the wrestlerettes know, I have this thing about going to the bathroom. So on many occasions I have almost pee'd my pants. On our way to state, we stopped in flagstaff and I had to pee so bad! We were trying to get to the mall and I couldn't hold it anymore. Of course everyone was making water noises and trying to make me laugh. It was horrible, I had to pee so bad I wanted to cry.. When we finally got to the mall, I was running in with my belt and pants undone to go to the bathroom. And, of course there was a wrestling team there, so you can imagine how dumb I looked.
The other night my mom was in the kitchen in her underwear and didn't realize Shem had a friend over. Then, in walks Shem and Duncan. So not knowing what to do, she hides under the table until they left.
There are the countless number of times when my brothers would make fun of me and I wouldn't get it so i would get so embarrassed and cry.
To this day they have a few favorites.
They were all telling jokes at dinner, and of course they were blonde jokes but the blonde was named Alyssa. Then Kalob says I walked into the kitchen one night and Alyssa was sitting at the table and I said it's chilly outside and Alyssa ran out with a bowl and a spoon. My whole family was laughing but I didn't get it so i asked "And then what happened?".
One day I was at the pool with my brother and he asked me if I was hungry and if I was to get something out of the freezer. So I went and got something out of the freezer and I was intently reading the instructions and I looked at him and asked "Is it frozen or thawed?" He started laughing and I told him a was serious. He kept laughing and laughing and looks at me and says ohh you are serious. He asked me where I got it and I said the freezer and I was just like Kalob please just tell me if it's frozen or thawed i really don't know. He finally told me that is was frozen not thawed.
Kalob-Luke, why don't you get an enema?
Me-Whats an emeno?
Hahahahahah
Seth-Alyssa I'm sure you would like a peppermint one.
Me-What is it?
Hahaha
Luke-Why don't you look it up.
Me- Ohkay I did, But all it said was poop like a pro.
They all laughed and still make fun of me.
My freshman year I had this challenge to get 20 wrestlers number at a tournament. So I would ask guys and I'd get there number. It was really easy, until I asked this one guy and he said no. I figured it was because our teams just wrestled. I was still freaking out about it and stressing. The next day I was still upset about it. For some reason I happened to be sitting next to the Queen Creek team ( The guy that rejected me was on this team). I decided to ask them if they knew my cousin Daniel. They did, but then they said wait wait if you're related to Daniel then your related to Trace. I was like Trace who I don't know anybody named Trace. They asked me If I was a Bowman, and I said yes. They all started laughing and said Oh my gosh you hit on your cousin. It turned out Trace is Trace Bowman and Trace Bowman is who I happened to have hit on. Small world Huh. I was horrified, and my parents thought it was funny especially because they were sitting with his parents in the stands. I had no idea that he was my cousin, but that didn't stop my parents from telling this story. This one took me awhile to get over.
There are always those moments where you are alone talking to yourself and someone walks in the room!
Or the infamous getting caught singing and dancing in your underwear.
I asked Shem what would he feel stupid about if someone saw him. These were his responses:
-Smelling my armpits.
-Trying to pretend I didn't fart
-Getting rejected by a girl.
-Practicing pick up lines in the mirror.
-Staring at a hott girl.
-Better yet, staring at a hott girl's butt.
Then he started laughing and said if I ever did any of those things.
There are so many more stories, and everyone has there own. I'm sure that you can think of those time where you realized how dumb you looked. Or, when you think back to a situation and you just feel stupid for doing that. But, I'd have to say these moments are part of life. I like them, they really are fun to look back and laugh at!
All in All we all have things that we feel really dumb about or think it's the end of the world, because of embarrassment. Believe me it's not I've done tons of stupid thing and I'm just fine, well sort of! So step back from your stupid moments and just laugh and tell someone else so they can laugh! I think one of the best lessons in life is to learn to laugh at yourself. If you can make better of an embarrassing situation then you can make better of anything.
So Just Love Me, and Laugh at yourself, I do!
-Alyssa
Sunday, February 13, 2011
Did you see that?
"Oh my goodness you are just the cutest thing ever. I've been watching you and you are so funny and completely adorable."
-A Random lady that came up to me.
Isn't it funny how you never know who is watching you, and sometimes kind of embarrassing. Especially when someone comes and tells you they have been watching you, and you just have that moment when you think to yourself Ooh No I wonder what they saw. This got me thinking, well why do I even do things if I'd be embarrassed if people saw me. Well most likely because I won't be embarrassed. I think Dr. Seuss says it best "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Now that I have decided to be who I am, it doesn't matter who sees because it is all me, and that's what matters. It used to really freak me out how many random people would come talk to me and tell me how entertaining I am. I thought it was really creepy, and my parents thought it was hilarious.But I have accepted that people watch you, and it's kind of flattering! If I can make someone smile by just doing what I do, then that's an accomplishment!
It also made me think about how many people I am entertained by. It's completely human nature to be fascinated by what other people do! And to be honest, it's actually a lot funnier when they don't know you are paying attention. The other night, when we were at our hotel, there was this guy in the pool and we kind of just ignored him. Then we noticed that whenever he would get out of the pool he would suck his stomach in to make himself look skinnier. I couldn't help but laugh because it just made him look ridiculous. He was completely oblivious that we all noticed this which made it all the more funny. How often do we watch what other people do, pretty much all the time. We observe so many things and it's the things other people do that we pick up on. Sometimes it's absolutely hilarious and it makes you laugh or smile. Or maybe it's something completely embarrassing that nobody would want you to see and you just don't say anything. I don't know how many times I caught someone picking there nose or a wedgie, then looking to make sure no one saw. You get where they are coming from because everyone has been seen doing something they'd rather not share. We have all tripped in front of people or just done something stupid! I know I have, I'm probably one of the most clumsy people ever. I have probably the most embarrassing stories. The difference is that I don't get embarrassed anymore, I try to make the most out of it. I am who I am and it's the little things and experiences that make life.. well life!
How boring would life be if we didn't have a laugh at what someone else has done. The funny stories about what has happened to you in front of people, or something you have observed. Honestly think about what makes you laugh during the day it's usually other people!Watching other people is fascinating trying to figure out what they do. Even laughing at their expense, I know it's horrible to say, but we all do it. We pay attention to things other people say and do constantly. I'm always catching myself watching someone and saying " did they really just say that?" or "I cannot believe they did that". We all do it, even if we don't consciously realize it.
So when you do something rather embarrassing think of it as making someone else laugh and giving them something to smile about. Even when you don't think people are watching they are... so my best advice is be who you are! It's entertaining to the rest of the world!!
So Just Love Me and well you can laugh at me too!
-Alyssa
-A Random lady that came up to me.
Isn't it funny how you never know who is watching you, and sometimes kind of embarrassing. Especially when someone comes and tells you they have been watching you, and you just have that moment when you think to yourself Ooh No I wonder what they saw. This got me thinking, well why do I even do things if I'd be embarrassed if people saw me. Well most likely because I won't be embarrassed. I think Dr. Seuss says it best "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Now that I have decided to be who I am, it doesn't matter who sees because it is all me, and that's what matters. It used to really freak me out how many random people would come talk to me and tell me how entertaining I am. I thought it was really creepy, and my parents thought it was hilarious.But I have accepted that people watch you, and it's kind of flattering! If I can make someone smile by just doing what I do, then that's an accomplishment!
It also made me think about how many people I am entertained by. It's completely human nature to be fascinated by what other people do! And to be honest, it's actually a lot funnier when they don't know you are paying attention. The other night, when we were at our hotel, there was this guy in the pool and we kind of just ignored him. Then we noticed that whenever he would get out of the pool he would suck his stomach in to make himself look skinnier. I couldn't help but laugh because it just made him look ridiculous. He was completely oblivious that we all noticed this which made it all the more funny. How often do we watch what other people do, pretty much all the time. We observe so many things and it's the things other people do that we pick up on. Sometimes it's absolutely hilarious and it makes you laugh or smile. Or maybe it's something completely embarrassing that nobody would want you to see and you just don't say anything. I don't know how many times I caught someone picking there nose or a wedgie, then looking to make sure no one saw. You get where they are coming from because everyone has been seen doing something they'd rather not share. We have all tripped in front of people or just done something stupid! I know I have, I'm probably one of the most clumsy people ever. I have probably the most embarrassing stories. The difference is that I don't get embarrassed anymore, I try to make the most out of it. I am who I am and it's the little things and experiences that make life.. well life!
How boring would life be if we didn't have a laugh at what someone else has done. The funny stories about what has happened to you in front of people, or something you have observed. Honestly think about what makes you laugh during the day it's usually other people!Watching other people is fascinating trying to figure out what they do. Even laughing at their expense, I know it's horrible to say, but we all do it. We pay attention to things other people say and do constantly. I'm always catching myself watching someone and saying " did they really just say that?" or "I cannot believe they did that". We all do it, even if we don't consciously realize it.
So when you do something rather embarrassing think of it as making someone else laugh and giving them something to smile about. Even when you don't think people are watching they are... so my best advice is be who you are! It's entertaining to the rest of the world!!
So Just Love Me and well you can laugh at me too!
-Alyssa
Sunday, February 6, 2011
Finding Myself.
There is this random wrestler jumping rope and warming up.
Shelby- What would you do if I asked him to use his jump rope?
Me-Oh My gosh Shelby do it. I'll give you $20.
Shelby-Oh my gosh I can't.
"Hey! Uhhh can I use your jump rope?"
"Yeah I guess. But it's not really a jump rope, it's an elastic band."
He hands her the jump rope and she starts jumping.
Why do we do things like this? It really made me think. Is it to get attention? Is it to just be funny? I would have to say probably both. I do so many completely pointless things, I would have to admit that it's to get attention and some laughs. I was talking to someone who pointed some things out to me that I never really thought about, things about me. Some how we got on the subject of how I put up this front of a dumb superficial blonde. I put on an act and few people know the real me. He told me, "People will take advantage of the ditzy blonde much more than they do the confident, intelligent one." he's right. Why can't I be the real me, maybe it's because I'm scared. Scared of getting hurt, scared of putting my real self out there. Another thing that he said had a big impact, "You try to protect yourself by making yourself stand out?". I know, it doesn't make any sense at all. Why do I need attention. Maybe I don't, maybe I'm trying to live up to other peoples expectations of me. Expectations that aren't even really there. Maybe it's because I want to hear that I'm worth something to someone. Acting like this and always wanting attention hasn't gotten me anywhere. Well maybe in some trouble, maybe even resented. He also told me " It's up to you whether you'd rather have people respect you for being confident and smart and have some people think you were arrogant. Or have just a few people respect you and a whole lotta people think you're a joke." I want to be the real me. I'm tired of putting on an act and being someone I'm not. I don't need the attention. I have just always relied on having it. I've been putting on this dumb blonde act for so long, it has done anything but hurt me. I have been relying on my looks so much, that my personality didn't even matter. Your personality is what makes you well you. I haven't been me, I've been fake. I'm not that dumb, superficial, blonde that only relies on her looks not her abilities, I'm Alyssa Bowman The confident, intelligent one that is talented and doesn't need looks to get her somewhere. I have overcome a lot of things from my past. But now my challenge is to be real and stop pretending. I was told " We are what we repeatedly do" and I'm finally going to repeatedly be me. It doesn't matter what people have to say, it only matters how I see myself and how I can make myself better. I've listened to what people have had to say about what I've done, but I have the say on what I'm going to do.I don't want to look back and remember all the stupid things I have done, I want to look back and see what I've accomplished. I want to be the real me. Thank goodness I've finally realized what's really important and that it's not too late. And Thank you Kory!!!
So Just Love Me! The Real Me!!!
-Alyssa ( The Smart Intelligent One)
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